From Mary Fairchild,
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This outline covers each of the typical elements of a Christian wedding ceremony. It is designed as a guide for planning and understanding each aspect of your Christian wedding. I've tried to include every possible element in a Christian ceremony, however, not all of these must be incorporated into your service, nor do they have to occur in this order. You may choose to add your own personal touches that give special meaning to your commitment as a couple.

Your Christian wedding ceremony can be personally designed, but it should also be an expression of worship, reflecting joy, celebration, community, respect, dignity and love. The Bible gives no specific pattern or order of service to define exactly what should be included, so there is room for your creativity. A primary goal should be to give each guest a clear impression that you, as a couple, have made a solemn, eternal covenant with each other before God. Your Christian wedding ceremony should be a testimony of your lives before God, demonstrating your Christian witness.

Pre-Wedding Ceremony Events

• Wedding Party Pictures
  This should begin at least 90 minutes prior to the start of the wedding and be finished at least 45 minutes before the ceremony.

• Wedding Party Dressed and Ready
  The wedding party should be dressed, ready and waiting in the appropriate locations at least 15 minutes prior to the start of the ceremony.

• Prelude
  Any musical preludes or solos should take place at least 5 minutes prior to the start of the ceremony.
  • More Resources for Christian Wedding Music

• Lighting of the Candles
  Sometimes the candles or candelabras are lit before the guests arrive. Other times the ushers light them as part of the prelude, or as part of the wedding ceremony.

The Wedding Ceremony

Processional

• Seating of the Parents
  Having the support and involvement of parents and grandparents in the ceremony brings a special blessing to the couple and also expresses honor to the previous generations of marriage unions.
  The processional music begins with the seating of the honored guests:
  • Seating of the Groom's grandmother
    
  • Seating of the Bride's grandmother
    
  • Seating of the Groom's parents
    
  • Seating of the Bride's mother

• Bridal Processional Begins
  • Minister and Groom enter usually from stage right. If the Groomsmen are not escorting the Bridesmaids down the aisle to the altar, they also enter together with the Minister and Groom.
    
  • Bridesmaids enter, usually down the center aisle, one at a time. If the Groomsmen are escorting the Bridesmaids, they enter together.
    
  • Maid or Matron of Honor enters. If she is being escorted by the Best Man, they enter together.
    
  • Flower Girl and Ring Bearer enter.

• Wedding March Begins
  The Bride and her father enter. Typically the Bride's mother will stand as a signal for all of the guests to stand. Sometimes the Minister will announce, "All rise for the Bride."

Opening Remarks - "The Call to Worship"

• Samples of the Call to Worship

The Opening Prayer

• Samples of the Opening Prayer

Congregation is Seated

At this time the congregation is typically asked to be seated.

Giving Away of the Bride

• Samples of the Giving Away of the Bride

Worship Song, Hymn or Solo

At this time the wedding party typically moves to the stage or platform and the Flower Girl and Ring Bearer are seated with their parents.

The Charge to Bride and Groom

• Samples of The Charge

The Pledge

• Samples of The Pledge

Wedding Vows

At this moment in the wedding ceremony the Bride and Groom face one another.

• Samples of Wedding Vows

Exchanging of the Rings

• Sample Exchanging of the Rings

Lighting of the Unity Candle

• Sample Lighting of the Unity Candle

The Pronouncement

• Samples of the Pronouncement

Communion

Many times couples will incorporate Communion into the wedding ceremony, making Communion their very first act as a married couple.

• More information about Communion

The Closing Prayer

• Samples of the Closing Prayer

The Kiss

Minister: ____, you may now kiss your Bride.

Presentation of the Couple

Minister: It is now my privilege to introduce to you for the first time, Mr. and Mrs. ____.

Recessional

The wedding party exits the platform, typically in the following order:
• Bride and Groom
  
• Maid or Matron of Honor and Best Man
  
• Bridesmaids and Groomsmen
  
• Flower Girl and Ring Bearer
  
• The Ushers return for the honored guests who are escorted out in reverse order of their entrance.
  
• Ushers may then dismiss the remaining guests, either all at once, or one row at a time.