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Readers Respond: How Do You Deal With Difficult People?

Responses: 39


It Is So Hard

I deal with a lot of difficult people in the ministry, and I got a timely message through your article.
—Guest christine

Tolerance and Prayer

Lord, I have difficult people in my life. It's not easy to wake up in the morning, and the moment you dress to leave your house, you think you are going to face them. I surrender them into your loving presence. I ask you to change them. I know they could be suffering from several situations, and that's the reason they can't see the other person happy and pick on them for no reason or the silliest reason, either to insult them or torture them with the most hurting words, or just feel happy that they have humiliated them. Lord, ease their situations and make them happy so that they can radiate that happiness to others. Why should they get curses from others when people can just bless them for who they are.
—Guest Michelle Gonsalves

Prayer for Difficult People

Pray for difficult people. David ran away from Saul because he knew he could not protect himself. What if our boss is difficult or a co-worker who ranks higher than we do? This is not someone you can easily challenge. By depending on God and praying for that person I have found peace of mind and a forgiving heart. Life is so much easier when I don't allow them to get to me. I have made a decision to pray for them and turn my frustration over to God.
—Guest Brittney Smith

Worst Situation in My 20 Year Carreer

I met an employee (lady) with histrionic character. She always loves to talk over the phone in the office. I prayed for her. Convinced her. Loved her, praised her, but no vain. But still praying to God for the betterment of her. And she is now confessing her mistakes, but can not change her. Maybe it will take much time.
—Guest Das P.

Fasting and Prayer

I have to deal with a difficult boss daily. It was so bad I dreaded coming to work. Then I went to the Lord in prayers. I fasted for three days and prayed hard, with the help of my family. Now, as I like to say, Jesus has chained him for me. He is less abusive and leaves me alone.
—Guest Mimi

I Say So Long to Difficult People

I have been faced with difficult people all of my life. They are that way because they feel it serves them, so I say, "so long."
—Guest Shawna

Demon Influence

I believe all evil behaviors or characteristics are of demonic influence, thus why they do not see or feel effects of their doing. Demons are spiritual forces only dealt with in prayer by actually coming against their intended purpose and mission in that person's life, and then apply God's purpose. It is not the person, per se, but the devil. Apply medicine to the wound. Everyone is born a wonderful being.
—Guest gentlejonah

Best to Ignore Them

I found in past experience that bullies and difficult people have personality problems, and one is far better off to ignore them. It always worked for me. People hate to be ignored.
—Guest kathleen matthews

Power in Prayer

I agree with all the ways that people have given on this blog, and just know there is power in prayer and in showing love. It's easy to love someone who is good to you, but it takes the love of the Lord Jesus in us to flow like a river. Be refreshed ourselves through the Word and then we will in return refreshing to others.
—Guest http://www.peopleofcolor.co.za

The Tea Diet

Try the 'tea diet.' Pretend your mouth is full of iced tea and you can't speak back. It's amazing how this helps. Or, remember this verse, "an answer, when mild, turns away wrath."
—Guest Linda

Ask God to Change Them

I pray for them, and ask the Lord to change them. They can't change themselves, so we need to pray for them.
—Guest Deloresschiele

Forgiveness of Trespasses

It is necessary that we forgive those who trespass against us as we ask God to forgive us our trespasses. We trust in God that He will respond to prayer, for if we believe, we will receive whatever we ask for in prayer. When someone is difficult with us, simply LOOK UP! Pray for them because problems which exist need to be restored. Respect is one of the most important words we know. Even though someone does not seem to respect us, we must show that we respect them. As God told us, "Hate the sin, but love the sinner." That's where we follow in the footsteps of Jesus regarding this particular problem. AMEN

Send the Light

I learned this and do this all the time from Joyce Meyer: When dealing with the dark send the light. I know when I am attacked with unkindness, I will send a gift, and it always brings me peace. The offense between me and the difficult person is gone. I also believe I have more issues with non-believers then believers. It's hard when we're trying to be like Christ and they don't have or know what conviction is like.
—Guest linda colleran

Be a Friend

I always smile, every time I meet difficult people. I think they have a hard time in their life and need a soft word. 1 John 3:16
—Guest whing pamplona

Loving Those Who Oppose

Loving those who oppose us is the perfect opportunity for us to practice real love - love that is not dependent on anything else. It is also the perfect opportunity for us to grow as real human beings.

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