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Readers Respond: How Do You Deal With Difficult People?

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In the article, "Dealing With Difficult People God’s Way," Jack Zavada writes, "Dealing with difficult people not only tests our faith in God, but it also puts our witness on display."

Perhaps you've discovered a secret for dealing with difficult people. If so, why not help others respond better to offensive individuals by sharing the biblical strategies you've learned.

Encouraged by Your Article

Right now, I am bombarded with different accusations from difficult people. It is worth noting to say that God never left me. He is there always to remind me that vengeance is not mine but it is for Him to avenge. Thank you, Lord Jesus.
—jayroldparcede

Dealing with a Difficult Mother

I unfortunately live with my mom due to the economy. She is an unhappy person, my oldest brother passed away 7 years ago, she was embarrassed of him because he was a stutterer all of his life. I live with her now due to the economy, and all she does is swear and gossip, and she is a church member. My brother is also living there now thank goodness, and she criticizes him about his weight, and how much she cannot stand his wife, and of course she criticizes me also. It tears her apart knowing that my brother and I are both very quiet and it takes a lot to get us upset. God is the answer and I will leave her in prayer, and pray that I can get out of her home soon. I refuse to let negative people get to me including my mother.
—storyteller03

Let Go and Let God

I recently had to deal with a lot of family problems and it was hard for me. I felt as if running away was the only option. Then right before I did the Lord told me to call my pastor. So I called my pastor and told him everything. I broke out in tears and he continued to listen. He then prayed for me and told me to wait til Sunday. Well, when Sunday came around he spoke to me and told me to expect some results soon. And not two days later, my dad and I talked and my problems were solved. So in all, going to God and praying is the BEST solution. If you try the LORD and this method, you will NEVER be disappointed.
—Guest Sarah Michelle

Stand Up to Bullying

When I was in junior high school, I endured bullying from a number of students. Then one day on the bus ride home, one guy kept flicking me in the ear while some others laughed. I decided I had enough of it, so I jumped into his seat and punched him in the head a few times. Needless to say, everyone was quite surprised. Not long afterwards, I transferred to a Christian school where I was able to meet some real friends who did not judge me for my dysfunctional family situations. Even now, if someone insists on getting under my skin, I have found that I have needed to stand up to them and tell them I'm not going to take it anymore. Even as a Christian, there are times you need to be strong to keep the peace.
—Guest Chuck

My Mom?

My mom makes my life miserable. She is angry at the church for the sins her son makes and now she hates me because I didn't leave the church with her. I am getting married in May, but she can't get over her offenses. I want people from church to go to the wedding, but she doesn't want to face her offenses (ungrounded offenses). It is really frustrating because I feel like the only solution is to accept that she won't be supportive... but that is so, so, so hard! I mean, she's my mom. I want her to care about my wedding. I've tried talking with her, reasoning with her, but her ears are closed. The funny thing is... she thinks I'm the one deceived. It tears me apart.
—Guest Mae Collins

Dealing with Difficult People God's Way

One of the greatest gifts we can develop in this life is to recognize the promptings of the Holy Ghost and then to let that Holy Spirit be our guide. Every situation is different. Go to Heavenly Father in prayer, talk to Him about how you are feeling and know that He hears and will answer your prayers. I try to work out in my mind what I think maybe the correct way to move forward then I go to my Heavenly Father in prayer and ask Him if it is right. (Please note here that I only ask the one question, if what I've planned out is right.) If it is right, He will let me feel that it is right in my head and in my heart. If so then carry out your plan, however, If it is wrong I usually have a stupor of thought and start over again trying to figure out what I should do. It's very important to only ask the one question. Reading James 1:5-6 should be a great help in knowing how Heavenly Father would have you proceed.
—Guest Susan B.

Meek Mice

You must judge each case on its own merits. I was severely attacked on the school bus by bullies day in and day out. It was too far to walk home. Does the situation fall into the category of CRIME (character defamation, assault, harassment)? If so you can't easily brush it off. Sinners must not be coddled while victims are condemned for complaining about their abuse. Any decent parent will do whatever it takes to keep their child safe, so long as its legal. As Kenny Rogers sang, Sometimes you gotta fight to be a man. That fighting should take place in the courts and justice system. We are not mice, we are sons and daughters of God. We are not doormats for the devil and his crowd to wipe their dirty feet on. Victims have to live with the repercussions of abuse while their assailants get off scot free. That's no justice. Bully ENABLERS are part of the problem in schools and workplaces. Turn the other cheek? God didn't always do that when people insulted Him in the OT.
—Guest Patricia

Daughter

My daughter was continuously bullied through third grade last year. At the end of the year five girls threatened to beat up my little girl. And then about one week later one of the girls hit my daughter in her back when she was on the monkey bars. The principle ignored it until I caused a scene. The girl got benched for recess for one day. Now school starts tomorrow. I want to be proactive before things escalate again. Does anyone have any suggestions before I go crazy? Much love to all of the Christians out there. God bless all of you.
—Guest Kathy

Only God Can Change Difficult People

Even your wife or husband or children can be difficult. If you try to change difficult people you might get hurt or go crazy. I tried to change my in-laws one time, but I went crazy. Thanks be to God who restored me. I washed my hands in innocence and I turn them to God to change them. Be still and know that I am God, He says. Obey God, do your part and He is faithful and just to do His part. Pray for difficult people and keep doing right. They want you on their side. Influence them, don't let them influence you. May God strengthen you as you do good. Amen.
—Guest The anointed of God

Ignore Them

The best thing to do with difficult people is to ignore them. They hate that.
—Guest janiehinojosa

Difficult Person: My Mother

God has not given me a wife to accompany me, so I live with my mother who is most neurotic. Even the most innocent remark can send her to being angry. Blasphemy, curses, and humiliating words come out of her mouth. I used to return "the kindness," and I always felt guilty because of that, showing I had trespassed. Then, unexpectedly, my Voice called to me saying that my mother has been given to me by God. He chose her for me as a mother and I should respect her. There are still quarrels over minor issues but I never let her down, because she is my sweet mother according to the words the Voice told me before. I learned to love her, too.
—TomNut2

I Deal With a Difficult Person Every Day

I try my best to ignore him and I pray a lot, but I think I need some advice on what I should do.
—Guest lisa

God is Love

I deal with difficult people through the grace of God's love. It takes the eternal love of God to deal with people. The Bible says in Matthew 5:16-17 to let your lovely deeds be seen by men that your Father which is in heaven may be glorified, 1 Peter 2:12. Thanks. Jesus is Lord.
—Guest Emmanuel V.BlessingsI

Be Christlike

In all situations, we need to guard ourselves that we do not sin against God in the way we think or respond to difficult people. Continue to walk on His path of righteousness. In our anger, do not sin. God's covering of protection will be upon us and we will shine for Him even more. Love overcomes evil. God will do His beautiful work in His way, in His time.
—Guest Jeni

A Soft Word

You taught me that this is an opportunity to practice real love with a 'soft word' for the person concerned.
—Guest christine

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